So, I wrote this letter to myself. I think it’s important to sit down and write out truths when things in life are going well (which they are currently!) so that, when they get tough (which they inevitably will!) you can pull out your truths and remind yourself of them. It not only serves as a reminder of what I know to be truths in my life, but also as a reminder of the condition of my heart and mind at this current time – a way to provide hope when things feel dark. This life is weird, to be honest, and it’s full of ebbs and flows – easy going tides contrasted with strong undercurrents. The most important thing to remember throughout it all: Gods got this.
Here’s a letter to me and to you, for when life gets hard:
1. You are recovering.
~You feel weak sometimes. That’s okay.
~You need sleep. Allow yourself to rest.
~Nourish your body – you’ve spent far too long at war with yourself.
~Your needs and goals will look different than those of the people around you. That isn’t bad and it doesn’t mean there is something “wrong” with you.
2. You are a student.
~It’s okay to say yes to the things you want to do.
~It’s equally, if not even more so, important to say no to the things you don’t want to do. ~Put yourself first.
~Eat. Sleep. And stay hydrated.
~Nothing will work unless you do – so be your own cheerleader!!
~For the love of God, please quit procrastinating. It never ends well.
~You’re broke and you most likely will be broke for at least the next 10 years. Accept it.
3. You are a child.
~First and foremost – you are a child of God. Revel in that fact. Soak it up. Let it consume you.
~You are a child of your mother and father. They want to take care of you. LET them take care of you.
~It’s okay to need things – money, food, shelter, clothes, books, school supplies, and it’s okay to ask for things…the worst they can say is no.
~It’s okay to run to your parents with tears in your eyes – tears of joy and tears of pain. ~Trust that they can handle your emotions even when it feels like you can’t.
4. You are human.
~It’s okay to ask for help. PLEASE ask for help when you need it.
~You will mess up.
~Learning to forgive yourself is the only way to live a full and happy life.
~But also, learn to forgive others – the sooner the better because they are also human.
~You’re body will fail you, your mind will escape you, but until that day – make an effort to put yourself first.
~You are the only you that exists.
~Don’t let others treat you like trash. When they do (because it will happen) put THEM in the trash can, secure the lid, and walk away.
~You can’t escape pain. Don’t run from it. But don’t live in it, either.
~Eat your vegetables. You’ll feel better. And you’ll poop more often – trust me, I know from experience.
~Allow people to love you and don’t be afraid to love them back. Love them even if and when they aren’t capable of loving you. Just love. Love as much and as often as you possibly can.
“We are all a people in need . We are not perfect. We are not machines. We make mistakes. We need grace. We need compassion. We need help at times. We need other people. And that’s okay.”
― Jamie Tworkowski
“The Lord will fight for you, you need only to be still.”